Happy families: what’s the secret?

April 1, 2008 3 comments

How many parents really understand what their children want and what they need? Perhaps it was my reaction to the McCartney divorce that prompted me to take some time out for a week’s vacation with my son. At the request of a journalist, I had been considering what Beatrice McCartney’s feelings may be if, when…

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Unmarried parents, children and chequebooks

March 28, 2008 5 comments

Some of the cases with which I become involved strike me as “entrapment”. Following my comments about cohabitation, Mr. Justice Charles, a veritable Sir Lancelot in shining armour, rides to the rescue! I am often asked to advise mothers who have not married their partners. They need to know the financial settlements they can expect…

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McCartney divorce: Lucky Heather Mills?

March 18, 2008 0 comments

From the Guardian‘s commentisfree… blog, 18/03/2008. Heather Mills may have done well out of her marriage to Paul McCartney. But to get there the couple waged a vicious and unnecessary war By Marilyn Stowe Millions of spectators round the world have been following the divorce battle between the McCartneys. It has grabbed media attention like…

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Cohabitation and our cowardly lawmakers

March 11, 2008 7 comments

Cut the red tape: why won’t politicians help cohabiting couples? I saw Baroness Thatcher on TV three times this weekend. I saw her twice on the Spitting Image reruns and laughed at the satirical takes on the absolute power she wielded over her fellow politicians. Then I saw her on the news, aged 82, leaving…

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Call a Christmas truce

December 5, 2007 0 comments

“If soldiers could declare a truce at Christmas, why can’t warring parents? Even in the midst of war, there can be peace.” At the darkest time of the year, for people of many faiths, a light comes shining through the darkness. December is one of the most beautiful months: we place lights in our homes,…

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A death in the family

November 23, 2007 0 comments

A client came to see me for the first time, accompanied by her mother.The client was attractive, well-groomed and smartly-dressed. Her mother, meanwhile, looked drawn and tired.Mrs X began by saying she felt hot. Could she please remove her jacket and her cardigan? It wasn’t hot at all but my trainee, who was there to…

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The Nanny, The Doctor, His Wife – And Her Lover

November 21, 2007 0 comments

   “Will my client ever forgive her? It is unlikely.” Some years ago, a client came to see me about his wife. He was a consultant at a hospital. She was a medical researcher at a university. According to him, their sex life was good and there had been no signs of any problems. Then…

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Hell hath no fury…

November 14, 2007 0 comments

When Heather Mills made a spectacle out of herself on worldwide television recently, I found it difficult to sympathise with her. Quite simply, she was out of control: “on a frolic of her own”, as lawyers are wont to say. She has become mired in a mixture of self-pity, anger, self-righteousness and the injustice of…

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