Why I disagree with Baroness Deech and her views on cohabitation

November 20th, 2009, by marilynstowe 6 Comments »

Post of the Month November 2009

This post won Family Lore’s Post of the Month Award for November 2009.

Today I appeared on BBC Radio 4 Woman’s Hour in a debate with Baroness Ruth Deech about the subject of cohabitation.

Two years ago the Law Commission (of which I was a member of the Legal Advisory Group) recommended that on cohabitation breakdown a scheme should be introduced which would compensate a cohabitant who could establish economic loss as a consequence of the relationship. It was purely compensatory, and not intended to give a claimant a divorce type settlement, because, as was stressed in the report, there was no intention to equate cohabitation with marriage. This form of compensation is already law in Scotland and the government is awaiting feedback from the Scottish scheme in order to decide whether to introduce similar provision for the rest of the country. Earlier this year, Lord Lester’s Cohabitation Bill, which proposed reforms to protect cohabitees and their children from falling into poverty, was debated in the House of Lords.

The story has hit the news again this week, as Baroness Deech has given a lecture describing Lord Lester’s proposals for a cohabitation law as “a windfall for lawyers but for no one else except the gold digger”. She believes that cohabitation law could invite blackmail and bullying from former partners and that it “retards the emancipation of women”.

These latest offensive and unfair comments are, of course, particularly close to my heart.

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Rights for cohabiting couples: how far will the government dare to go? By guest blogger Isabel Thornton

November 9th, 2009, by marilynstowe No Comments »

cohabitation-rights-2I have a personal interest in the Law Commission’s proposals to revamp the law for cohabiting couples, which would give cohabitees the same rights on death as married couples. As a cohabitee of almost six years, who has only recently agreed to make an honest man of her partner, would I be better off “living over the brush” – or is marriage a safer place to be?

The answer is clear.  As the law currently stands, unmarried partners get nothing if their partner dies without making a will.  A lot of people find this very surprising.  What is even more surprising is that the length of the relationship or the existence of children makes no difference. Surely if you have been together over 20 years and have five children together, you would be entitled to something?  I am afraid not.  If one partner dies and the surviving partner wants to challenge the lack of provision for them, they face protracted and costly litigation under the Inheritance Provision for Family and Dependents Act 1975. There is no guarantee of success.

Under the new proposals, couples who live together for more than five years or who have children together will be treated as if they are married, if one of them dies without making a will. Continue reading »

Tepid welcome for Law Commission’s review of intestacy laws for cohabitants

November 4th, 2009, by marilynstowe 1 Comment »
Tepid welcome for Law Commission’s review of intestacy laws for cohabitants

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3 November 2009
Cohabitants who have lived together for more than five years could be given the same rights on death as married couples under plans unveiled by the Law Commission.
The proposals, out for consultation until 28 February 2010, suggest that if a cohabitant dies without a will and the couple do not have children, the survivor would have the same rights over the estate of the deceased partner as a surviving spouse in a marriage.
One option put forward by the commission would see the whole of the estate go to the surviving spouse or partner, a move that one lawyer described as “potential dynamite for probate solicitors”.
If there are children, the minimum qualifying period in cohabitation cases would drop to two years, but ordinary rules would apply by default if fewer than two years had elapsed.
But family lawyers have only given a tepid welcome to the consultation.
For Tina Dunn, a partner in the family team at Mace and Jones, the review is appropriate but she is disappointed at the piecemeal approach.
“There have been talks about giving cohabitants certain rights for some time, not just intestacy,” she says. “So this is a step in the right direction but it fails to tackle separation.”
Nicola Plant, head of private client at Thomas Eggar, agreed the proposals only address a comparatively minor issue without looking at the whole cohabitation picture.
“There is a lot of talk about intestacy rights but there is no mention of responsibilities,” she said. “Would it be right for you to have a right to claim on my estate but no responsibility to me during my lifetime? The proposals only look at what happens on death, but you can’t look at this without addressing the whole issue of cohabitation and how you define it.”
Marilyn Stowe, senior partner at Stowe Family Law, goes further. “Separation of cohabitants as a result of death is rare but when it happens it can be a nightmare,” she comments. “What is needed is complete harmonisation of cohabitation with marriage.”
Stowe says there are far more issues with assets and property on separation as a result of breakdown, and that intestacy disputes are a much rarer occurrence compared with cohabitation disputes between live partners.
She said the ‘economic loss’ approach in a previous Law Commission paper on cohabitation provided a suitable model. “It didn’t equate cohabitation with marriage and offered less of a remedy than in marriage breakdowns, but it offered a remedy nonetheless,” she says.
But it is the lack of political commitment which Stowe said could endanger any move towards greater rights for cohabitants, with the current government waiting to see the result of changes to the law in Scotland, and the Conservatives having spoken against specific legislation.
Tom Farley-Hills, a solicitor in the private client team at Speechly Bircham, is equally doubtful that without such support this latest proposal will herald more fundamental, much-needed change.
“The recommendations might indicate that momentum for reform of cohabitation law is building. I am just not sure whether there is any political will currently to make these recommendations law.”
Dependency claims: costly and tricky
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Claims under the Inheritance (Provision for Family and Dependants) Act 1975 can be expensive and evidence of dependency difficult to collate.
Some firms have nonetheless reported a rise in claims, and Tom Farley-Hills said the proposals could help reverse this trend.
Costs are a significant factor, making many individuals who could potentially qualify as applicants under the Inheritance Act not pursue a claim. They are also the main reason why the estate will not contest such claims.
Marilyn Stowe says the majority of the disputes she handles under the Act settled for these reasons.
“Most Inheritance Act claims are successful and the person executing the will is understanding. There will usually be some skirmishes but disputes usually settle rather than go to court, mainly because of the costs risk,” she says.
The other main difficulty is the ability to provide evidence of dependency, according to Tina Dunn.
“Claimants would initially approach the executor, who acts in the interest of the beneficiaries,” Dunn says.
“Dependency is not a matter of equality and there will be competing interests over the estate. The executor or the judge will have to rely on what was said when the deceased was alive. Letters or the fact that partners shared bank accounts will help establish dependency, but it will often be somebody’s word against somebody else’s.”
From the comment pages of the Yorkshire Post, 23/10/2009.

From the Solicitors Journal, 03/11/2009.

Tepid welcome for Law Commission’s review of intestacy laws for cohabitants

Cohabitants who have lived together for more than five years could be given the same rights on death as married couples under plans unveiled by the Law Commission.

The proposals, out for consultation until 28 February 2010, suggest that if a cohabitant dies without a will and the couple do not have children, the survivor would have the same rights over the estate of the deceased partner as a surviving spouse in a marriage.marilyn-blog-about

One option put forward by the commission would see the whole of the estate go to the surviving spouse or partner, a move that one lawyer described as “potential dynamite for probate solicitors”.

If there are children, the minimum qualifying period in cohabitation cases would drop to two years, but ordinary rules would apply by default if fewer than two years had elapsed.

But family lawyers have only given a tepid welcome to the consultation.

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Coping with divorce, part two. Fight your demons.

October 8th, 2009, by marilynstowe No Comments »

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In the last post about coping with divorce, I wrote about how distressing the divorce process can be and how, to emerge whole at the other side, it is vitally important to do whatever it takes to keep your mind in shape.

This post is a cautionary one, about what can happen if you give in to those demons lurking in your head. I have previously written about the dirty divorce tricks born of the desire for vengeance. Earlier this week I described how bottled up emotions can result in emotionally charged choices and behaviour. Now I wish to look at how the repercussions can affect younger members of your family.

During a divorce you can be tempted to surrender to those demons, to let your baser emotions spin of control, to fight and to cause pain. However the opportunities to do so are limited. This is because the legal procedure is strictly controlled in financial cases, as misconduct is rarely of relevance and is generally frowned upon by the courts.

Proceedings involving children are different. In such cases allegation upon allegation, true or malicious, can by heaped upon parties in ”the children’s interests”. Common sense and rational thought can fly out of the window.

You mustn’t go there. But some people do.

After 26 years as a divorce lawyer, I am not easily shocked. While reading some recently reported children cases, however, I was taken aback by the bitterness and malice that leapt from every page. Continue reading »

Pre-nups and politics: Dear Prime Minister…

June 12th, 2008, by marilynstowe 2 Comments »

An open letter to Rt Hon Gordon Brown MP, Prime Minister.

Dear Prime Minister,

Joshua Rozenberg interviews the Chairman of the Law Commission in today’s Daily Telegraph. Three family law matters are touched upon: reform of ancillary relief law, pre-nuptial agreements and cohabitation law reform.

I note that there will be no reform of the law in relation to the division of a couple’s assets. The courts will continue to apply the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973 and I’m pleased about that. As a family law solicitor, I approve of the discretion given to the judges: it helps couples across the country who don’t have “big money”. I am very much against the equal division of assets as in other countries, because there are occasions when 50:50 cannot be fair. No two cases are the same.

I also note that the Law Commission will be examining the legal status and enforceability of pre-nuptial agreements. I can’t think why valuable public resources are going to be spent helping the very rich to protect their assets. Continue reading »

Cohabitation v remarriage: what’s a breadwinner to do?

June 4th, 2008, by marilynstowe 3 Comments »

 

Proposed legal rights for cohabitants have one reader reaching for the panic button.

As regular readers are aware, I hold strong views about the Government’s reluctance to introduce new legislation for cohabiting couples. I believe that cohabitants should be allowed to put their relationship before the court in the same way that divorcing couples can. 

Not everyone agrees with me. One reader has contacted me to argue that the law should not be changed. I think he raises some interesting and pertinent points about cohabitation and remarriage, and I would like to explore his case in more detail.

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Cohabitation and our cowardly lawmakers

March 11th, 2008, by marilynstowe 6 Comments »

  

Cut the red tape: why won’t politicians help cohabiting couples?

I saw Baroness Thatcher on TV three times this weekend. I saw her twice on the Spitting Image reruns and laughed at the satirical takes on the absolute power she wielded over her fellow politicians. Then I saw her on the news, aged 82, leaving hospital. She was clearly very frail, but determined to walk unaided, despite her age and infirmity. Agree with her politics or not – and sometimes I did not – her spirit and fearlessness remain admirable.

Following last week’s debacle over cohabitation, I wish that our present leaders had such backbone! More than ever, I am convinced that in its dying years, our Government has become bogged down in red tape and paper-shuffling.

We have learned that the Government won’t be changing the law for cohabitants. Plans to do so are being held “in abeyance” while we wait and see how the Scots fare. This is because the Scots, who certainly don’t defer to opinions expressed in English media, have already changed their own law.

The message from Whitehall is, as usual, wrapped up in bureaucratic jargon and more red tape. Now taxpayers’ money is to be wasted on a futile “comparison” exercise; after that, I suppose, the subject will be quietly put to bed.

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Cohabitation and the “common law marriage” myth

January 23rd, 2008, by marilynstowe 6 Comments »

It is worrying that so few cohabitants have taken steps to safeguard their positions.

Cohabitation remains a popular choice of relationship in Britain. More than one third of people (36 per cent) have cohabited in the past, and one in nine (11 per cent) do so at present.

Unfortunately, my office is frequently consulted by an increasing number of cohabitants who have learned, to their great shock, that they have no legal remedy following the breakdown of their relationships.

In the midst of separation, a cohabiting couple experiences the same emotional turmoil as a married couple going through a divorce. Even so, there is little – if anything – that the law can do for them.

Gay couples entering into Civil Partnerships have the same rights as married couples. However, heterosexual couples who choose not to marry, or who may not be able to marry, have no automatic rights in law. 

Four years ago, the government launched a high-profile media campaign to raise awareness about this. Unfortunately, a new report has revealed that many in the UK remain confused about the legal consequences of living together outside of marriage.

The latest British Social Attitudes study, published by the National Centre for Social Research, shows that more than half of adults (51 per cent) still hold the mistaken belief that there is such a thing as “common law marriage”‘, which gives cohabitants the same rights as married couples. Continue reading »