A family lawyer meets her match!

March 1st, 2010, by marilynstowe No Comments »

family lawyer and radio humbersideThe Stowe Family Law offices in Yorkshire and Cheshire are particularly busy at this time of year. I am also spending time in London, seeing clients there and readying our new office in High Holborn. I am making the most of the spare time that I have, immersing myself in things that make me laugh and feel good.

So right now I am very particular about what I listen to. I like music that is easy on the ear – but sufficiently “boom boom” to get me moving – and a radio presenter with a good sense of humour. Music and fun set me up for the busy day ahead.

Right now one presenter worth listening to, in my opinion, is Peter Levy. He is based at BBC Radio Humberside, in Hull of all places. I admit I’m biased because that city is fielding two teams against my currently battered team, the Leeds Rhinos. Rugby league has long been my favourite spectator sport; Hull FC with its new addition Sean Long – he of the sexy long blonde dreadlocks, formerly of our greatest rival, St Helens - may prove to be a major problem for us this season.

So I do sympathise that Peter Levy has chosen to base himself in Hull, poor man. I reckon that for him, it is time for a change…

Let me explain.

I first came across Peter when he was presenting the local news on TV. Chirpy, chippy, unflappable and “nicely” rude, I liked his sense of humour. I still do – until it is deployed against me, that is. Continue reading »

The Marilyn Stowe Blog wins Family Lore’s Post of the Month trophy

January 6th, 2010, by marilynstowe 1 Comment »

Family Lore blog awardI am very honoured: this family law and divorce blog has won Family Lore’s Post of the Month trophy for the second month in a row!

John Bolch of Family Lore writes:

“December was a pretty thin month for family law blogging, but there was one post that stood out head and shoulders above the rest.

“For the second month running my coveted trophy goes to Marilyn Stowe. In The family law case of the decade: White v White Marilyn tells us that White v White was the most important family law case of the ‘Noughties’ (and who can argue with that – I don’t recall any single case in my entire career having such an impact), and explains why, including looking at case law both before and since. She also gives us her opinion as to the effect of White, and speculates as to future developments. An excellent post, and one that I wish I had written, demonstrating as it does the real value of serious blogging – read it if you’ve not done so already.”

Thanks John.

2010, here we come…

December 31st, 2009, by marilynstowe No Comments »

WattbikeNew Year’s Eve and another year, indeed a decade, is almost over.

How has this year been for you? If it has been anything like mine, it has been a rollercoaster. It has passed by very quickly and, looking back, there have been some real highs. There was the faster than expected development of our Cheshire office, our acquisition of a London office set to open next year, and five of our cases included in the Law Reports. I also appeared on BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour, debating against Baroness Deech on possible changes to the law on cohabitation.

 There have also been some lows: my surgery and a long slow recovery from its complications, getting used to major lifestyle changes and a dash to Israel to deal with a family emergency. I’m no different to anyone else: we all have our ups and downs, our highs and lows.

I have chosen to share many of those very personal up and down moments with my readers, because this blog isn’t just about family law and how it works in practice. It is also about connecting with other people, sharing feelings and emotions, and going through good times and bad together. Continue reading »

Farewell Blanche Hunt

December 3rd, 2009, by marilynstowe No Comments »

Blanche HuntThere can be little doubt that Blanche Hunt, played by actress Maggie Jones who sadly died yesterday aged 75, was one of the most entertaining characters on British TV.

Who was she? Fans of ITV’s Coronation Street knew her as the acerbic, brilliantly witty mother of Deidre Barlow -and mother-in-law of long suffering Ken who drew most of her witheringly accurate wit. Ken is the likeable intellectual snob who met his match in his mother-in-law. He was able to cope with her, because he wasn’t resentful of her. He accepted her as a fixture in his life and even when he could have run away with the highly improbable Martha the actress, who lived on a barge, he chose to stay with his wife – and his shocking mother-in-law.

I will miss Blanche! I found a list of some of her most famous “put downs”. Probably one of her best performances was aired only a few weeks ago. She was entertaining George, the newly discovered maternal grandfather of Peter Barlow’s step son (it makes sense if you follow the story line!) – and with the encouragement of a little too much alcohol, she had something terrible to say about every single member of her family, who were trying desperately to make a good impression on George. In their typically English way, the whole family just took it, said nothing and sat squirming with embarrassment. No-one escaped the attentions of Blanche. It was the funniest TV and a brilliant performance by Maggie Jones, even though she clearly didn’t look well.

But on a wider note, as we are approaching the festive season, I thought I would add a word of caution, because in real life these types of relatives can be far from funny and too much plain speaking can have a devastating impact on a marriage.

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A Happier End to the Week!

November 27th, 2009, by marilynstowe 1 Comment »

London skylineThere is an old saying that sunshine always follows the rain. The destruction of my blog yesterday was upsetting but fortunately it was only short term. However, today I have some great news. 

We have today signed up to a property in Central London, literally 2 minutes from the family court (aka the Principal Registry on High Holborn); and when a makeover has taken place, Stowe Family Law will be opening its third office. In London!!! 

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Normal service has been resumed

November 26th, 2009, by marilynstowe 7 Comments »

On Sunday last week I was a guest speaker at the opening of the newly refurbished Hillel House in Leeds, which provides kosher accommodation and a “home from home” for Jewish students at Leeds University. Hillel Houses can be found across many campuses in this country.

Leeds has the largest number of Jewish students at any university in the country. Its flagship Hillel House not only provides this home from home, but also provides a much needed haven for the many Jewish students who find themselves attacked on University campuses across the country by anti-Israel supporters, and worse, by anti-semites. Anti-semitic attacks on Jewish students nationally have gathered pace in recent years, often provoked by paid agitators funded in other countries and I have spoken publicly over the last few years, about the real need to protect Jewish students who find themselves suffering racist attacks which they have done nothing to provoke. It is a truly horrifying situation recognised in a Parliamentary report on the problem which acknowledges how serious and widespread it is.

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Are dinner parties stressful?

November 24th, 2009, by marilynstowe No Comments »

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I have spent the last week or so championing the cause of women who choose not to work. In the course of so doing I have had to think quite a lot about what they do, and do so well, and I have realised that compared to them, in so many ways, I am truly deficient.

Is it stressful giving a dinner party? That’s the question in today’s Daily Telegraph.

In my opinion, it is extremely stressful and bravo if you can do it! I know for sure that I certainly can’t cook for a dinner party.

My ‘piece de resistance’, now honed to a fine art, is the well known “Tuna Splosh”. This is a dish of incomparable finesse involving a can of tuna and a can of chopped tomatoes thrown together in a pan, heated and mixed with some pasta (any pasta that comes to hand). My husband, son and ultimately, our dogs, love it. I can serve it lukewarm, boiling hot or even – if I’m demonstrating major culinary skill – hot outside and cold in the middle.

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Why I disagree with Baroness Deech and her views on cohabitation

November 20th, 2009, by marilynstowe 6 Comments »

Post of the Month November 2009

This post won Family Lore’s Post of the Month Award for November 2009.

Today I appeared on BBC Radio 4 Woman’s Hour in a debate with Baroness Ruth Deech about the subject of cohabitation.

Two years ago the Law Commission (of which I was a member of the Legal Advisory Group) recommended that on cohabitation breakdown a scheme should be introduced which would compensate a cohabitant who could establish economic loss as a consequence of the relationship. It was purely compensatory, and not intended to give a claimant a divorce type settlement, because, as was stressed in the report, there was no intention to equate cohabitation with marriage. This form of compensation is already law in Scotland and the government is awaiting feedback from the Scottish scheme in order to decide whether to introduce similar provision for the rest of the country. Earlier this year, Lord Lester’s Cohabitation Bill, which proposed reforms to protect cohabitees and their children from falling into poverty, was debated in the House of Lords.

The story has hit the news again this week, as Baroness Deech has given a lecture describing Lord Lester’s proposals for a cohabitation law as “a windfall for lawyers but for no one else except the gold digger”. She believes that cohabitation law could invite blackmail and bullying from former partners and that it “retards the emancipation of women”.

These latest offensive and unfair comments are, of course, particularly close to my heart.

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Tepid welcome for Law Commission’s review of intestacy laws for cohabitants

November 4th, 2009, by marilynstowe 1 Comment »
Tepid welcome for Law Commission’s review of intestacy laws for cohabitants

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3 November 2009
Cohabitants who have lived together for more than five years could be given the same rights on death as married couples under plans unveiled by the Law Commission.
The proposals, out for consultation until 28 February 2010, suggest that if a cohabitant dies without a will and the couple do not have children, the survivor would have the same rights over the estate of the deceased partner as a surviving spouse in a marriage.
One option put forward by the commission would see the whole of the estate go to the surviving spouse or partner, a move that one lawyer described as “potential dynamite for probate solicitors”.
If there are children, the minimum qualifying period in cohabitation cases would drop to two years, but ordinary rules would apply by default if fewer than two years had elapsed.
But family lawyers have only given a tepid welcome to the consultation.
For Tina Dunn, a partner in the family team at Mace and Jones, the review is appropriate but she is disappointed at the piecemeal approach.
“There have been talks about giving cohabitants certain rights for some time, not just intestacy,” she says. “So this is a step in the right direction but it fails to tackle separation.”
Nicola Plant, head of private client at Thomas Eggar, agreed the proposals only address a comparatively minor issue without looking at the whole cohabitation picture.
“There is a lot of talk about intestacy rights but there is no mention of responsibilities,” she said. “Would it be right for you to have a right to claim on my estate but no responsibility to me during my lifetime? The proposals only look at what happens on death, but you can’t look at this without addressing the whole issue of cohabitation and how you define it.”
Marilyn Stowe, senior partner at Stowe Family Law, goes further. “Separation of cohabitants as a result of death is rare but when it happens it can be a nightmare,” she comments. “What is needed is complete harmonisation of cohabitation with marriage.”
Stowe says there are far more issues with assets and property on separation as a result of breakdown, and that intestacy disputes are a much rarer occurrence compared with cohabitation disputes between live partners.
She said the ‘economic loss’ approach in a previous Law Commission paper on cohabitation provided a suitable model. “It didn’t equate cohabitation with marriage and offered less of a remedy than in marriage breakdowns, but it offered a remedy nonetheless,” she says.
But it is the lack of political commitment which Stowe said could endanger any move towards greater rights for cohabitants, with the current government waiting to see the result of changes to the law in Scotland, and the Conservatives having spoken against specific legislation.
Tom Farley-Hills, a solicitor in the private client team at Speechly Bircham, is equally doubtful that without such support this latest proposal will herald more fundamental, much-needed change.
“The recommendations might indicate that momentum for reform of cohabitation law is building. I am just not sure whether there is any political will currently to make these recommendations law.”
Dependency claims: costly and tricky
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Claims under the Inheritance (Provision for Family and Dependants) Act 1975 can be expensive and evidence of dependency difficult to collate.
Some firms have nonetheless reported a rise in claims, and Tom Farley-Hills said the proposals could help reverse this trend.
Costs are a significant factor, making many individuals who could potentially qualify as applicants under the Inheritance Act not pursue a claim. They are also the main reason why the estate will not contest such claims.
Marilyn Stowe says the majority of the disputes she handles under the Act settled for these reasons.
“Most Inheritance Act claims are successful and the person executing the will is understanding. There will usually be some skirmishes but disputes usually settle rather than go to court, mainly because of the costs risk,” she says.
The other main difficulty is the ability to provide evidence of dependency, according to Tina Dunn.
“Claimants would initially approach the executor, who acts in the interest of the beneficiaries,” Dunn says.
“Dependency is not a matter of equality and there will be competing interests over the estate. The executor or the judge will have to rely on what was said when the deceased was alive. Letters or the fact that partners shared bank accounts will help establish dependency, but it will often be somebody’s word against somebody else’s.”
From the comment pages of the Yorkshire Post, 23/10/2009.

From the Solicitors Journal, 03/11/2009.

Tepid welcome for Law Commission’s review of intestacy laws for cohabitants

Cohabitants who have lived together for more than five years could be given the same rights on death as married couples under plans unveiled by the Law Commission.

The proposals, out for consultation until 28 February 2010, suggest that if a cohabitant dies without a will and the couple do not have children, the survivor would have the same rights over the estate of the deceased partner as a surviving spouse in a marriage.marilyn-blog-about

One option put forward by the commission would see the whole of the estate go to the surviving spouse or partner, a move that one lawyer described as “potential dynamite for probate solicitors”.

If there are children, the minimum qualifying period in cohabitation cases would drop to two years, but ordinary rules would apply by default if fewer than two years had elapsed.

But family lawyers have only given a tepid welcome to the consultation.

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Divorce and snap decisions do not mix

October 19th, 2009, by marilynstowe No Comments »

divorce-solicitor-harrogate As solicitors, one of our most important functions is to supply excellent advice at all times.

Three of our trainees have recently qualified as fully-fledged solicitors. Liz Bell, Sarah Barr-Young and Eleanor Webster (left), together with Andrea Essen, Claire Glaister and John Moore, have launched a free “Legal Clinic”, which mimics the free legal clinics that I used to run. Every Monday evening they offer appointments of 20 minutes apiece, providing complimentary legal advice on family and matrimonial matters. The clinics have already proved very popular.

I enjoy a weekly session with the Legal Clinic lawyers, called Think Outside the Box. Over coffee, we discuss the advice given at the Clinic. Why was it the best advice? What were the choices? I like the younger lawyers in the team to consider situations from various perspectives, come up with a range of advice and choose the option that suits the client best. 

This week, Liz Bell discussed her recent cases at the Legal Clinic. One case stood out; we discussed the advice she had given, and I suggested that she write a guest post. I hope that her advice – with which I concur – proves useful to readers. Continue reading »