The pressure cooker of housework

September 28, 2012 1 comment

Whether you spend thousands or opt for a cut-price affair, weddings can be great fun. But after the confetti, champagne and congratulations from friends comes the day-to-day reality of living with your new spouse. As the weeks turn into months and those turn into years, your blissful union may start to develop a few cracks:…

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Two faces of adoption

September 26, 2012 2 comments

As much as we may like to moan about them from time to time, the truth is that parents are a pretty fundamental part of growing up. They provide us with home, security, a sense of identity in a confusing world, bed and board, affection and discipline…the list goes on and on. Sadly, for much…

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News: judge halts adoption for medical reports

September 21, 2012 0 comments

news

An appeal court judge has temporarily halted adoption proceedings after hearing that a case of suspected child abuse may in fact have been caused by rickets. Lord Justice McFarlane called for medical reports after that hearing that the broken bones which had led authorities to suspect child abuse could have been caused by the soft…

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Living in sin?

September 21, 2012 0 comments

Church bells, champagne, flowers in lapels, bright pavilions on summer lawns, drunken uncles dancing….yes, I am thinking about weddings. Marriage is one of the most basic of all social institutions and so one that is very easy to take for granted. We rarely stop and ask ourselves ‘what’s it actually for?’ That is not an…

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Angry voices

September 20, 2012 4 comments

family law

Mention ‘domestic violence’ to most people and you can be sure the same old images will pop into their heads: angry voices, smashing plates, raised fists, a bullying husband venting sudden neurotic rages on a cowering wife. But these distressing images, while built around a core of truth, are simplistic and do not capture the…

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Adoption and a new life

September 18, 2012 2 comments

As we recently saw, applications for places in care are at an all-time high. This is sad news for society and sad news for the youngsters who face years in children’s homes without the support of a family – even if they have been removed from chaotic or abusive home lives. Many will go on…

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In care and in school

September 13, 2012 2 comments

All children are vulnerable but children in care are the most vulnerable of all. They must navigate the tricky waters of childhood and grow into emotionally and intellectually fully- formed adults with little or no access to their parents. Of course those parents have often been removed from the picture for very good reasons, but…

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Trouble in a bottle

September 12, 2012 6 comments

Anyone who read the recent story about a British expatriate couple who were reported to have abandoned their child in a Portuguese street while they drank in a café will have groaned. Excessive drinking – how very British. The BBC report is full of such telling details as the parents reportedly being unable to speak…

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Shared parenting presumptions

September 10, 2012 19 comments

We all start with two biological parents at birth and this two-way image stays with us throughout our lives, whatever our individual circumstances. Whether we live with those biological parents, with adopted alternatives, or with some mixture of the two in surrogacy, we may lose a parent for a whole host of reasons, from the…

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