Divorcing couple in Nigeria argue over neglect claims


A Nigerian church official has applied for a divorce from his wife of five years because she reportedly refuses to cook him meals or wash his clothes.

The 66 year-old, who lives in the south-western city of Ado Ekiti, is an ‘elder’ with the homegrown Pentecostal church Mountain of Fire and Miracles, which was founded in the nearby coastal metropolis of Lagos in 1989.

The church official complained that his wife had begun to neglect him after their marriage. She fed their twins but not him, he complained in a local family court hearing, and neglected washing and cleaning. And when he complained about her behaviour she would “curse” him he told the judges.

According to a report in The Nation, the man specifically asked the court during the hearing to allocate care of their twins to his wife and not to him, because they were just four years old: a request that would not be needed in most European countries. In return he offered child maintenance of 3,000 Nigerian Naira a month (£6.38).

His wife, who works as a seamstress, denied her husband’s claims, saying that in fact it was him who had failed to care for her and their children. He was struggling financially she alleged, and regularly consulted herbalists and holy men about his business problems. He was violent and regularly threw her out of their home she insisted.

She was equally keen to bring an end to the marriage but wanted monthly maintenance of as much as 20,000 Naira (£42.54).

The case continues.

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Stowe Family Law Web Team

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Paul - September 8, 2017 at 2:47pm

Does not want the man but she wants him to bankroll her and her litter. Age old story. Obviously the story is written to make the man look like a masojonistic dinosaur. Hmm ive never heard that accusation aimed at a man before. Ushually when she wants away from her marrital obligations. But surely this woman knew what this man was like before she married him right ?
Has he changed or has her expectations ? This brings to mind a post you put up a while ago think it was a Jaimacan official who had said he dissapproves of maintainance because it encourages marraiges to break up. I remember you put the post up in mockery of his stance. But thats exactly what is taking place here.

Cameron Paterson - September 8, 2017 at 3:40pm

Both these stories were written neutrally, as news stories. There was no intention to slant or spin them one way or the other.

Paul - September 8, 2017 at 7:10pm

Not a personal attack. Its written in the only way these things are ever written. Man abussive ogre woman precious victim. Im sure it was not done conciously. But read it again. Thats not neutral.

Paul - September 8, 2017 at 7:18pm

No such thing as writing neutrally. You must write for target demographic or you run the risk of been etternally on the fence. People find that a turn off. Or my names not Alistair Cambell. Lol

Cameron Paterson - September 8, 2017 at 7:21pm

In theory at least, news should be neutral and features/ articles express opinion. But the lines between the two are frequently blurred

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