Widow says ‘never go to bed angry’
July 11, 2017 3 comments
A mother of three has spoken of her regret at arguing with her husband one night, only to find him dead the next morning.
Ashley Murray, 33, from Wellington in Somerset, lost her husband Mikey after he returned home exhausted from a 16 hour shift one evening. She had become concerned by the long hours he had been working recently and lost her temper with him because he was a “mess” she remembers. The couple rowed and she told him to sleep on the sofa.
The next morning, to her horror, she discovered that her 36 year-old spouse had passed away during the night. An autopsy established that he had choked but no specific cause of death could be found, Yahoo! News reports.
The couple had been married since 2010. Hardworking Mikey adopted her daughter from a previous relationship and the couple went on to have two children of their own.
Beautician Ashley remembers her husband as caring and considerate and a devoted family man.
“He absolutely loved his family. He wanted his kids to have all the things in life that he didn’t and he worked so hard to make that happen.”
He wracked up long hours with little time off to save extra money for family holidays, she explains.
“He would work 16-hour shifts, seven days a week just so he could save up enough to take us all to Disney every year. He was so worn out but he would do anything just to see us smile. But the hours he was working were just getting too much. He was so exhausted all the time and he was running himself into the ground and his health was going downhill fast.”
Mikey had developed spinal arthritis after a back injury a few years earlier and she believes this never properly healed.
Ashley urged couples to never go to bed on an argument and spoke of her regret that her last conversation with her husband was an angry row.
“I felt so guilty. I was so angry with myself for making him sleep on the sofa. I still find it so hard to think that my last words to him were out of anger.”
Later she discovered that he had been working extra shifts in his final few weeks to take her to Prague for their wedding anniversary.
Mrs Murrell said:
“Losing Mikey has changed my entire perspective on life. Life is too short to go to bed angry and not to spend every moment you can with your family.”
Photo of Wellington by Nick Chipchase via Wikipedia under a Creative Commons licence
July 11, 2017
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