Men’s health suffers after divorce

ShavingDivorced men are more prone to substance abuse and depression than their married counterparts and die at a much higher rate, according to a new study.

The Influence of Divorce on Men’s Health, published The Journal of Men’s Health, is a review of “current literature on the sequelae [effects] of divorce on men’s health.”

The review reveals that divorced men have  a mortality rate up to 250 times that of married ones – falling victim more frequently to such conditions as high blood pressure, stroke and heart disease. They are more likely than their married friends and neighbours to catch a range of diseases, ranging from the common cold to cancer.

Divorced men are also more likely to drink too much, abuse drugs, and suffer from depression. They and ten times more likely than married men to receive psychiatric treatment and 39 per cent more likely to commit suicide.

Dr Ridwan Shabsigh is president of the International Society of Men’s Health. He said:

“Popular perception, and many cultures as well as the media present men as tough, resilient, and less vulnerable to psychological trauma than women. However, this article serves as a warning signal not to follow such unfounded perceptions. The fact is that men get affected substantially by psychological trauma and negative life events such as divorce, bankruptcy, war, and bereavement.”

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Marilyn Stowe

The senior partner at Stowe Family Law, Marilyn Stowe is one of Britain’s best known divorce lawyers with clients throughout the country, in Europe, the Far East and the USA.

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10 comments

Luke - October 1, 2013 at 4:43pm

This is actually an argument for staying single – not for staying married.
I’m not surprised at the figures, so many men are sitting looking at 4 walls of a poky bedsit, struggling to see their children. Most of their assets gone and they are paying so much money in child support, spousal support and lawyer’s fees that they have no hope of a real recovery.

Remember the only difference between half of the married men and divorced men is time…

Tulsa Divorce Lawyer Matt Ingham - October 1, 2013 at 6:50pm

Not surprised at all that divorce has a negative impact on people’s health. Am surprised though that the impact hits men harder than women though.

Anonymous - October 1, 2013 at 11:26pm

It’s really quite simple, if you’ve had any experience. It hits them harder because they are subject to the most hypocritical forms of sexism, and are treated like outlaws by the thugs who work the system. There is really nothing like a gross sense of injustice to impair one’s health. Not surprised though that the journal mentioned above leaves out all the real reasons; perhaps it was subject to yet another one of the gagging orders that fascist Britain loves to dish out?

Steve - October 2, 2013 at 4:48am

Hi Matt why are you surprised, the man is often unfairly left with very little as the courts are truly biased towards the woman, the consequnece is obvious

Stitchedup - October 2, 2013 at 12:12pm

Matt,
have you ever represented a man?

Tulsa Divorce Lawyer Matt Ingham - October 2, 2013 at 7:38pm

Steve and Stitchedup sound a tad bit jaded which means they have probably both had a negative experience in the court system. Very unfortunate, but it does happen.

Stitchedup - October 3, 2013 at 2:59pm

Matt,
I find it very sad that as a lawyer you appear completely unconcerned about “negative experience in the court system” and the affects that gross injustice in the family law system can have on the health and wellbeing of men. Read the article again and try to digest what is being presented.

This is a blog where people are invited to share their opinions and experiences of divorce, separation and the family courts. My experience, like may others that contribute to this site, was indeed very negative. Unfortunately feminists often dismiss men with negative experiences of the family courts as simply bitter and twisted or as you put it “a tad bit jaded”. For me it really isn’t about being a tad jaded or a bit jaded with the system. it’s about taking on an institutionally biased system and raising awareness of the fact that or courts and legal system have become dangerously infected with feminist political correctness that runs right to the heart of the ministry of justice and DPP.

Yvie - October 3, 2013 at 7:41pm

The Court System is only part of the problem. Why should fathers post-separation have to seek contact with their children through the family courts? A lot of dads have no alternative but to go down this route, despite the fact that they may have very little money, and many will continue until they bankrupt themselves. Why? Because they have no intention of deserting their children.

Anonymous is quite right about separated dads having to stare at four walls, as many will have been ousted out of the family home to make room for the new man. For those dads who are lucky enough to gain meaningful ‘contact’ with their children, the expense of feeding and clothing them, as well as providing for them whilst they are with their mothers, leaves many dads with very little money left after paying the bills, always assuming there is enough to pay the bills. In fact, they may have so little spare money, that starting a new relationship is out of the question.

Contrast this with a mother who has ejected her husband from the family home and moved someone else in. She will be in receipt of child benefit, child tax credit and probably working tax family credit if she works over 16 hours. She may have a full time job, her new partner may have a full time job, she will also be in receipt of child maintenance, and she may even ‘forget’ to declare her new man is living with her on a permanent basis.

Perhaps that might give you some idea Matt, why divorce can hit men harder than it hits women.

Singledad - October 7, 2013 at 12:21am

These finding are just a reflection of common sense and actual experience of most males that traverse the despicable family justice system. They’ll probably use this finding to retrospectively deny men primary carer status or even joint carer status because of “findings that mens health suffers upon divorce more than women – hence they will be less able to care for children post divorce.”

JamesB - October 7, 2013 at 12:03pm

I think I still have ptsd from going through these places 5 years ago.

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