Divorce and children: your contact questions answered
Yesterday the head of our dedicated Children’s Department, Mark Christie (left), answered some of your recent questions about child maintenance. Today he answers your questions about child contact and other child-related matters.
As before, the questions appear as they were typed. If you have a question and cannot find it here, leave a comment and we will try and point you in the right direction. Alternatively, make an appointment at one of our six offices in London, Yorkshire and the North West (contact details here), to attend one of our friendly legal advice clinics, which run every lunchtime and provide free legal advice.
alcoholic weed smoking exhusband wants more access to children uk law
Abuse of alcohol and other substances is sadly on the increase and is a problem that can often feature in cases involving children in the UK Courts. The Court’s view is essentially that abuse of these substances is incompatible with responsible child care insofar as it undermines a parent’s ability to properly and safely look after a child. If your ex-husband denies substance abuse the Court can be asked to order certain tests which will prove whether or not he is abusing these substances. If it is shown that this is a problem and the Court takes the view that he presents a risk to the children, then the Court can refuse him contact (formerly known as access) or only order indirect contact (i.e. by email, text, letters etc.) or ensure that contact is supervised so that it is safe.
can a child who was born in australia move with her mother who is a british citizen to england to stay for good
If the family is living in Australia then Australian Law will govern any intended relocation to the UK. Under English Law the father’s consent would be required and if this was not given then an application can be made to Court for the Court to decide whether or not it is in the best interest of the child to relocate. The legal principles are likely to be very similar in Australia.
can i give limited access for my children to see my ex husband new partner
You would need to agree with your ex-husband the terms of any contact between him and the children and if an agreement cannot be reached then you could try referral to mediation to see if this can assist in resolving issues. If not an application to Court may be necessary. Contact can be limited or subject to certain conditions. Generally speaking, conditions to limit contact between your children and your ex-husband’s new partner would only be justifiable if there are good reasons. The Court recognises that couples move on and form new relationships and that new partners will then have a relationship with the children. This can only be objected to if the new partner presents some kind of risk to the children or there are other justifiable reasons.
can you stop a violent ex from seeing his child
In a word yes, though the ex would have a right to make an application to Court for a Contact Order under the Children Act 1989. The Court would then have to decide whether he/she presented a risk to the child. In some cases someone who has been violent in a relationship may still be a good parent provided he or she has not been violent to the children or has allowed the children to witness violence between the parents. In some cases contact will be allowed where there has been violence but only in circumstances where there would be absolutely no risk to the children. Conditions can also be put in place by the Court to minimise any risk to an absolute minimum i.e. by having the contact supervised at a Contact Centre or by some third party, or by contact taking the form of indirect contact (i.e. by way of emails, text and letters etc).
do we have to take child to court first appointment
I presume you are referring to proceedings concerning the child? The answer is that you do not have to take the child to the First Appointment at Court nor indeed to any other Court hearings. Depending on the age of the child, then if the Court orders Cafcass (Childrens and Family Court Advisory Support Service) to prepare a report the Cafcass Officer may speak to the child provided he is of an appropriate age.
got a letter from solicitor about ex partner wanting to see child more. should i ignore
I believe it is rarely in your best interest to ignore a letter from a solicitor as it can lead to Court proceedings being issued unnecessarily. I would advise you to seek your own independent legal advice about your ex-partner wanting to have more contact and that you do so from a solicitor who is a member of Resolution – First for Family Law, as he/she will specialise in family law issues. If you simply ignore the letter then this is likely to trigger an application to Court and you may have lost the chance to reach an agreement. Having said that, even when Court proceedings are issued there continues to be an expectation that agreement should be reached between the parents and so avoiding the continuation of any Court proceedings.
husbund got a non-molestation order toward wife can he still meet children
It may be possible for your husband to see the children notwithstanding the Non Molestation Order made against him if he presents no risk to the children and contact is agreed upon. Sometimes a Non Molestation Order can be worded so as to allow contact for the purposes of exercising contact to the children. If necessary contact can be structured in such a way that there is no contact between you and your husband ie. it is supervised at a Contact Centre or by some third party or handovers are dealt with by a third party.
i have contact order for my child but ex is refuseing to bring her back to me uk
If your ex is refusing to comply with the Court Order and allow you contact then you may have to go back to Court and apply for enforce the terms of the Contact Order. If he has wrongly removed your child from this Country then you have the right to make an additional application to the Court in this Country for a Specific Issue Order (for the return of your child) and/or a Prohibited Steps Order. The Court has powers to enforce compliance with its Orders including the power to order a fine, unpaid work in the community, the payment of compensation to you, a transfer of residence, and in the most serious cases, a term of imprisonment.
if im requested to court by my ex partners solicitor regarding children do i have to go
Yes you should attend Court preferably instructing a solicitor to represent you if you are in a position to do so so that your legal rights are protected. If you do not attend Court then if the Court is satisfied that you are aware of the proceedings, but refused to attend, a Judge can make such Order as he/she feels appropriate in all the circumstances in your absence. You cannot however be compelled to go to Court if you do not wish to do so. I would recommend you seek advice from a family law specialist.
as i have a child under 16 i have to be seperated 2 years before i can get a divorce when should i advise my grounds for divorce are adultery
Just because you have a child under 16 does not mean that you cannot rely upon any of the other facts to establish that the marriage has broken down irretrievably so as to obtain a divorce. You can use whichever of the five facts apply to you regardless of the age of any children. The five facts are:
ii) Unreasonable behaviour;
iii) Two years’ desertion;
iv) Two years’ separation with the consent of the other person; and
v) Five years’ separation without the consent of the other person.
The existence of children or their age is not relevant to the fact relied upon to obtain the divorce.
if i get divorced, will my child’s premium bonds be classed as assets?
It is unlikely that your child’s premium bonds would be classed as assets particularly if they are of insignificant value. However if they are of significant value and there is little in the way of other assets, then it is possible for either parent to argue that they should be taken into account as part of the marital assets. Much will also depend upon the intention behind taking out the premium bonds in the child’s name. If it was intended to be a savings mechanism for the benefit of the child then in my view the bonds should not be regarded as matrimonial assets.
Mark Christie is the head of Stowe Family Law’s dedicated Children’s Department. A long-standing member of Resolution, he is also a member of the Law Society’s Family Law Panel, which means his expertise in family law has been rigorously and independently assessed and accredited. Mark has specialised in family law for more than 30 years and provides clients with a wealth of practical experience.
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