Indian divorcees struggling in second marriages
Most of the couples are aged 35 to 45, DNA India reports, hoping for a happier future. Many are also professionals without financial concerns. But, according to officers assigned to the so-called Women’s Assistance Cell (WAC), many of the former divorcees find it difficult to compromise their lifestyles for their new relationships. Others are prone to comparing their second marriages to their first ones and many are already planning to divorce.
WAC police inspector Smita Jadhav told the site:
“In many cases, remarried couples having marital discord have told us that they decided to remarry because they felt lonely after divorce and wanted to have company for the remaining life. In many cases, divorced women were reluctant to remarry but were convinced by parents. Because of this, they find it difficult coping with even a small problem in the new relationship and tend to take extreme steps.”
In nearly 50 per cent of cases, the WAC reports, women complain that their new husbands haves not revealed important information about past relationships and children or significant property deals.
Jadhav cites an example, “A 45-year-old divorced man remarried a 40-year-old divorcee two years ago. After the marriage, the woman came to know that the man had transferred his property in the name of children born out of an earlier marriage. She felt he was not thinking of her future and was giving more time to his children from the previous marriage. Then she started feeling betrayed and approached us. She wanted immediate divorce.”
The WAC now employs four marriage guidance counsellors, including a man.
“We try to sort out the problems mutually. However, many couples are not in a mood to listen to us,” said Jadhav.
Indian couples determined to go their separate ways can apply for a divorce by mutual consent, the officer explained – an arrangement which is faster and less complicated than other methods.
“In such cases, the couple live separated for six months and then file for divorce with mutual consent. The judge hears both sides and grants divorce. In such cases, it takes about a year to secure divorce.”
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