Comments on: When opponent spouses become the Black Knights of divorce

By: Marilyn Stowe

Marilyn Stowe — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 19:48:58 +0000

Outgunning the wife financially is often a tactic of the Black Knight. And, using the children against the wife is another.
I sympathise fully with you and your partner, but, I think if she caves in now based on anything other than the best legal advice, she will regret it. If you arent happy with the legal advise you are getting, and the disclosure given, it might be worth a second opinion.
Remember, parenting is tough but children sometimes are tougher than you think, and I would not give in to emotional blackmail. Your partner will get only one chance, and she shouldnt let it go at this late stage for the wrong reasons. Judges arent easily fooled.
Best wishes to you both.

By: Peter Jackson

Peter Jackson — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 09:45:18 +0000

Unfortunately the “Black Night” more often or not will go to extreme lengths to achieve their goal, and their trump card can be their own children. My partner has unfortunately suffered an almost 3 year case todate involving stalling, the pleading hardship to the court, drip-drip of mis-information, court order after court order for finacial disclosure (and still not complied with), S37 orders to stop further borrowings to deplete assets, the sale of joint assets and received £0, Forensic Accountants fobbed off and not given what they required, turning to self representation as he “can nolonger afford legal representation,” and she is know responsible for a legal bill chasing £100K. With a final hearing date approaching this month, the Trump card by “Black Night” – accept derisory settlement “on my terms over the next 10years or the children (both U16) come out of private education and I’ll turn them against you” and said infront of the children!! – checkmate by “Black Night” – both solicitor and Council stumped. After rebuilding her relationship with her children over the last 4 years to what she has now, she can’t afford to call the bluff.

By: Aidan Coogan

Aidan Coogan — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 09:03:55 +0000

The Black Knight is an excellent description and have no doubts that I could be classed in this category but what do you do when your solicitor when submitting a case cannot even get the cost of your Mortgage right or the value of Endowments. I totally accept they know the law but that doesn’t make them competant. If there was a decent redress system in place we the ‘customer’ may have a little more confidence in their ability to represent their client correctly.

By: John Bolch

John Bolch — Tue, 09 Feb 2010 07:24:18 +0000

Yes, we’ve all come across black knights, I’m afraid. Unfortunately, they are not as amusing as the Black Knight in the film.