http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2009/12/20/christmas-and-the-divorced-man/ Where Family Law Meets Family Life Sun, 20 May 2012 21:43:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2009/12/20/christmas-and-the-divorced-man/#comment-453 So, is Christmas a “Woman Thing”? | Marilyn Stowe Family Law and Divorce Blog Wed, 23 Dec 2009 16:54:21 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/?p=1499#comment-453 [...] me Christmas and the divorced man: is my client right? Dec [...] [...] me Christmas and the divorced man: is my client right? Dec [...]

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]]> http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2009/12/20/christmas-and-the-divorced-man/#comment-451 Donna F. Ferber, LPC, LADC Mon, 21 Dec 2009 00:25:51 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/?p=1499#comment-451 I am a psychotherapist in private practice who specializes in family transitions. I disagree with the idea that the stress of the holidays drives women to divorce.Many women are clear they want a divorce PRIOR to the holidays. The frenzy we observe is their desire to make "The Last Family Christmas" as special as possible before they file for divorce in January. Being sensitive to the needs of the family, most therapists and attorneys advise people not to begin divorce proceedings too close to the holidays. If they do, children most likely will associate the festivities with the demise of their parents' marriage. No one takes divorce lightly. Women often have worked for years to keep their marriage together. Sometimes,they make a New Year's resolution about ending their marriage. Holiday stress does aggravate already bad behaviors-people tend to eat, drink and spend too much and are often sleep deprived. If there are issues of substance abuse, the holidays only makes them worse. The same is true for verbal and physical abuse. Often the holidays reinforce the decision, but they aren't the catalyst. Donna F. Ferber, LPC, LADC Author-From Ex-wife to Exceptional Life: A Woman's Journey through Divorce" www.donnaferber.com I am a psychotherapist in private practice who specializes in family transitions. I disagree with the idea that the stress of the holidays drives women to divorce.Many women are clear they want a divorce PRIOR to the holidays. The frenzy we observe is their desire to make “The Last Family Christmas” as special as possible before they file for divorce in January. Being sensitive to the needs of the family, most therapists and attorneys advise people not to begin divorce proceedings too close to the holidays. If they do, children most likely will associate the festivities with the demise of their parents’ marriage.
No one takes divorce lightly. Women often have worked for years to keep their marriage together. Sometimes,they make a New Year’s resolution about ending their marriage.
Holiday stress does aggravate already bad behaviors-people tend to eat, drink and spend too much and are often sleep deprived. If there are issues of substance abuse, the holidays only makes them worse. The same is true for verbal and physical abuse. Often the holidays reinforce the decision, but they aren’t the catalyst.
Donna F. Ferber, LPC, LADC
Author-From Ex-wife to Exceptional Life: A Woman’s Journey through Divorce”
http://www.donnaferber.com

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