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Divorce solicitors: why clients seek second opinions

I often see clients who are looking for second opinions on their cases. Many of them have started off with local solicitors, or solicitors they have known for many years. Typically, such a client had been brimming with confidence at first, and had been assured that family law was straightforward.

After a few months, however, the client will have found themselves no further forward in their divorce, and cannot see a way out. Frequently the only practical advice given to them is, “let’s look at a settlement when we know the whole picture”. Bogged down in paperwork which purports to give “the whole picture” when it doesn’t, they begin to despair. The solicitor remains reluctant to give advice about what settlement should be in the offing. With the process dragging on, costs are mounting.

I don’t wish to blow my own trumpet, but family law is much more complex than it may appear to be at first sight. I make this point to lawyers rather than clients, because lawyers tend to think it is a relatively easy field of law. It isn’t.

I met one such client this week. He has been having sleepless nights and fears that there will be nothing left after his wife – whose solicitor certainly knows what he is doing – has finished with him.

So what goes wrong? In my opinion there are two important factors, which people should know about before – rather than after – they embark on divorce proceedings.

Firstly, I think a competent solicitor should be able to give a good steer at the very first meeting, having extracted all the relevant information about the client and the factors that a court will take into account. The solicitor should be able to provide details of outcomes in similar fact cases and the likely outcome therefore for the client.

I’m not a fortune teller, but I can advise about what is likely to happen in most cases, usually with the parameters within which I think the court will make its decision. Even in the most complicated cases, with the most complicated of assets, it is possible to advise a client about the likely outcome of a split. I will also provide an estimate of the likely costs of the case.

This is advice that clients need to know – however difficult it is to give.

Clients want to know about likely outcomes and costs, and they want reassurance. What they don’t want is to be fobbed off. If a solicitor cannot provide this advice – even when it is qualified within a range of parameters – I don’t think that he or she should be advising the client in the first place.

This is why in my offices, even though I don’t deal with the routine day to day issues on clients’ files, I will usually see each client first. This means that I can advise, guide, direct and review every case’s progress. This approach ensures my input until the case is resolved – but also ensures that legal costs are contained.

Secondly, I don’t understand why some solicitors don’t advise their clients about financial proceedings as soon as they can. If the solicitor is acting in the client’s best interests and it isn’t one of those exceptional cases where the parties are in close agreement, this should be a no-brainer. The court doesn’t regard it as an aggressive stance, it keeps costs contained and it timetables the case so that the end is in sight.

However, many solicitors prefer “voluntary disclosure” as the way to go. They believe – wrongly, in my opinion – that it will keep clients amicable. I disagree. It shifts power towards the party who has no wish to reach a swift conclusion, – and in these recessionary days, such an imbalance of power can become all the greater. It has no “teeth”: a party refusing to play ball, who wishes to drag out negotiations, need not produce full disclosure because there is no court sanction. On occasion, some solicitors are even prepared to advise clients on the basis of disclosure which is unsworn and therefore, in my view, should not be relied upon. This means that when and if negotiations break down, the entire process – or most of it – will have to begin again, under the auspices of the court. Costs climb. So what is the point?

I can more or less guarantee that when a second opinion is sought, it is a direct result of one or both of the above.

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1 Comment

  1. Anonymous on March 31, 2009 at 9:49 am

    I feel you have just written about my solicitor! Looking back I can see he has done exactly what is said here, he has waited far too patiently for information that has not been forthcoming (or has arrived months and months later) while I have supplied all that I can and have been left in a position of…well, where I am now. Nowhere land.

    My ex’s solicitor is threatening ‘ancillary relief hearing’ with every letter, but wont actually DO it (I wish they would!) My solicitor (a different person in the same firm, I have no idea what happened to my nice but useless solicitor) has told me it will cost me £10,000 to go down the ancillary hearing road, and that it isn’t worth it. I was originally told it would cost about £1,800 to get divorced, so fat it’s cost £3,000. I feel like I am being expected to walk out of a 19 year relationship with nothing.

    My ex (sometimes) pays maintenance through the CSA to the tune of £1.54 per day for each of our five children. He has two businesses (plumbing and heating which is declared and a LTD company, and a massage parlour that is not). We have a house worth £320,000 but with a massive mortgage that we are in arrears of, it is jointly owned and while on the market, the repossession proceedings will start on Wednesday (the 1st of April). He offered me a settlement of me handing the house over to him and he would start paying the £2,100 a month mortgage again (unless it is repossessed and there is a debt to pay, in which the house will still be jointly mine), no lump sum, no maintenance for me, no claim to his businesses or pensions, but with him generously paying the CSA presrcibed maintenance formula.

    I need to find someone who can actually help my children and I! All I wanted was financial support for our children! Is that too greedy?

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I write for the benefit of those who are experiencing family breakdown and for fellow family law professionals. Please note that all persons mentioned in the scenarios are fictitious: details have been deliberately changed in order to protect identities and other confidential circumstances of my clients.

Please also note the advice I give in each scenario must not be relied upon by anyone reading my blog. You must always take your own legal advice as your circumstances may be different and English family law is continually changing.

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