Comments on: Maintenance, remarriage and “Barder” events http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/ Where Family Law Meets Family Life Thu, 17 May 2012 17:28:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Brian Myerson's Credit Crunch Divorce - by guest blogger Robin Charrot - Marilyn Stowe Blog http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-39531 Brian Myerson's Credit Crunch Divorce - by guest blogger Robin Charrot - Marilyn Stowe Blog Mon, 14 May 2012 11:30:51 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-39531 [...] So this is what they did. Brian handed over to Ingrid the couple’s London home and a property in South Africa. He agreed to hand over a second property in South Africa (but hasn’t done so yet), and also agreed to pay her a lump sum of £9.5m cash, in instalments, over four years. He has already paid £7m of this, so £2.5m remains owing. Brian kept all of the shares in his company. In short, the wife received 47% of the assets and the husband kept 53% of the assets. As part of the deal, Ingrid also agreed to terminate her maintenance claims against Brian; this process is known as ‘capitalisation of maintenance‘. [...] [...] So this is what they did. Brian handed over to Ingrid the couple’s London home and a property in South Africa. He agreed to hand over a second property in South Africa (but hasn’t done so yet), and also agreed to pay her a lump sum of £9.5m cash, in instalments, over four years. He has already paid £7m of this, so £2.5m remains owing. Brian kept all of the shares in his company. In short, the wife received 47% of the assets and the husband kept 53% of the assets. As part of the deal, Ingrid also agreed to terminate her maintenance claims against Brian; this process is known as ‘capitalisation of maintenance‘. [...]

]]> By: Rosewenn http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-32014 Rosewenn Wed, 25 Apr 2012 13:11:40 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-32014 I am sure that during the ancillary relief proceedings, my soon to be ex will claim he is not living with the woman he has been for three years. If the judge accepts this as being true, can the ancillary relief by changed when my husband moves back in with the other woman. He will effectively be in a household with two wages where as I will only have one. I am sure that during the ancillary relief proceedings, my soon to be ex will claim he is not living with the woman he has been for three years. If the judge accepts this as being true, can the ancillary relief by changed when my husband moves back in with the other woman. He will effectively be in a household with two wages where as I will only have one.

]]> By: ian http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-17618 ian Sat, 10 Mar 2012 15:09:32 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-17618 hi if i married again with new partner. do my new wife have to pay for my kids to if she on job seekers or workind thanks hi if i married again with new partner. do my new wife have to pay for my kids to if she on job seekers or workind thanks

]]> By: Emily http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-16279 Emily Mon, 05 Mar 2012 11:43:37 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-16279 Hi there, I have found this all very interesting reading. I wonder if you could answer a query that I have. My husband and I have been together for 18 months. I have 3 children under 14 and he has 2 children with his ex partner (they were never married) since their split 6 years ago he has continued to pay the mortgage in place of maintenance payments. His ex has never worked. I am preganant with our first child together (so we will have four children living with us) We really need the extra space and a bigger home and while I work and have a good job, it will be difficult to get a decent sized home in a good area on my wage alone. Does he need to carry on paying for her home? I really don't want his children to be homeless or to struggle (I have been there)But surely my husband has a responsibilty to our child too and to provide a good home for us. Surely she could get a job and take some of the responsibilty as many other women do. Hi there,

I have found this all very interesting reading. I wonder if you could answer a query that I have.

My husband and I have been together for 18 months. I have 3 children under 14 and he has 2 children with his ex partner (they were never married) since their split 6 years ago he has continued to pay the mortgage in place of maintenance payments. His ex has never worked. I am preganant with our first child together (so we will have four children living with us) We really need the extra space and a bigger home and while I work and have a good job, it will be difficult to get a decent sized home in a good area on my wage alone. Does he need to carry on paying for her home? I really don’t want his children to be homeless or to struggle (I have been there)But surely my husband has a responsibilty to our child too and to provide a good home for us. Surely she could get a job and take some of the responsibilty as many other women do.

]]> By: deborah http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-12073 deborah Mon, 13 Feb 2012 23:47:08 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-12073 My ex clearly lied on his for E claiming he was a tenant in the woman's house he is about to marry next month. I agreed to the divorce providing he signed the agreed assets over to me within 56 days, which was in September 2011. Where do I stand regarding the fact that he is about to get married yet has not signed the assets awarded to me, which includes the FMH and Endowments ? My ex clearly lied on his for E claiming he was a tenant in the woman’s house he is about to marry next month. I agreed to the divorce providing he signed the agreed assets over to me within 56 days, which was in September 2011. Where do I stand regarding the fact that he is about to get married yet has not signed the assets awarded to me, which includes the FMH and Endowments ?

]]> By: Marilyn Stowe http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-7101 Marilyn Stowe Fri, 13 Jan 2012 15:42:25 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-7101 Pete No Im afraid not. Spousal maintenance only stops on remarriage not child support. However are you sure you are paying the correct amount for child support given they stay with you three days a week? Go to the CSA calculator online to check.https://www2.dwp.gov.uk/csa/v2/en/calculate-maintenance.asp Regards Marilyn Pete
No Im afraid not. Spousal maintenance only stops on remarriage not child support.
However are you sure you are paying the correct amount for child support given they stay with you three days a week?
Go to the CSA calculator online to check.https://www2.dwp.gov.uk/csa/v2/en/calculate-maintenance.asp
Regards
Marilyn

]]> By: Pete http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-7091 Pete Fri, 13 Jan 2012 14:12:14 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-7091 Very interesting read. So am I correct in thinking that if my ex-wife remarrys, which she has. I am no longer obliged to pay maintenance to her for my sons who live with me for three days a week anyway?? Very interesting read. So am I correct in thinking that if my ex-wife remarrys, which she has. I am no longer obliged to pay maintenance to her for my sons who live with me for three days a week anyway??

]]> By: Marilyn Stowe http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-4877 Marilyn Stowe Sat, 31 Dec 2011 09:59:30 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-4877 Lesley No she can't. I suppose she could argue your partner would have resources available to him to reduce his own needs. Ongoing maintenance cases are very difficult. Why don't you and your partner have a discussion with a solicitor about seeing if it is possible to end his maintenance obligations at some point? Marilyn. Lesley
No she can’t. I suppose she could argue your partner would have resources available to him to reduce his own needs. Ongoing maintenance cases are very difficult. Why don’t you and your partner have a discussion with a solicitor about seeing if it is possible to end his maintenance obligations at some point?
Marilyn.

]]> By: Lesley Snell http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-4772 Lesley Snell Fri, 30 Dec 2011 19:52:49 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-4772 I find your blog very useful and interesting. My partner divorced three years ago, a woman as described in some of your articles, without the qualifications or inclination to earn a substantial income, latched on to a man who could provide the same, and even though she couldn't make the effort to even do housework has been voracious in her pursuit of every penny by fair means or foul. I am divorced myself, and wanted to think well of her, but her behaviour, the lies she has told about my partner, especially to their adult children has destroyed his relationship with them. Although refusing to speak to him or his family, one child aged 21 who has been out of school for some years is demanding via her mothers solicitor £750 per month maintenance whilst at university though she works and runs a car, the maintenance order was to the end of secondary education. The ex works part time for her divorce solicitor who still acts for her, and is understood to be having an affair with her, so presumably her legal costs are aren't as high as my partners . She receives substantial maintenance and has been able to buy a nice house mortgage free and has 40% of my partners pension. She works part time as I mentioned.We are all in our 50s she is 18 months younger than me. I have a good job, a house, two successful independent grown up children. The ex has no scruples or self respect about pursuing money she is not morally at least, entitled to. My concern is, were I to move in with my partner, or marry him, can she drag my assets or income into what she regards as her potential pot? Frankly I would give up work before I would pay her a penny of mine directly or indirectly. What are her chances ? All children involved are over 18. Please change my name if you use any of this, thanks. I find your blog very useful and interesting. My partner divorced three years ago, a woman as described in some of your articles, without the qualifications or inclination to earn a substantial income, latched on to a man who could provide the same, and even though she couldn’t make the effort to even do housework has been voracious in her pursuit of every penny by fair means or foul. I am divorced myself, and wanted to think well of her, but her behaviour, the lies she has told about my partner, especially to their adult children has destroyed his relationship with them. Although refusing to speak to him or his family, one child aged 21 who has been out of school for some years is demanding via her mothers solicitor £750 per month maintenance whilst at university though she works and runs a car, the maintenance order was to the end of secondary education. The ex works part time for her divorce solicitor who still acts for her, and is understood to be having an affair with her, so presumably her legal costs are aren’t as high as my partners . She receives substantial maintenance and has been able to buy a nice house mortgage free and has 40% of my partners pension. She works part time as I mentioned.We are all in our 50s she is 18 months younger than me. I have a good job, a house, two successful independent grown up children. The ex has no scruples or self respect about pursuing money she is not morally at least, entitled to. My concern is, were I to move in with my partner, or marry him, can she drag my assets or income into what she regards as her potential pot? Frankly I would give up work before I would pay her a penny of mine directly or indirectly. What are her chances ? All children involved are over 18. Please change my name if you use any of this, thanks.

]]> By: McFarlane v McFarlane: A Divorce Seesaw | Marilyn Stowe Family Law and Divorce Blog http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-52 McFarlane v McFarlane: A Divorce Seesaw | Marilyn Stowe Family Law and Divorce Blog Thu, 27 Jan 2011 12:17:26 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/03/07/maintenance-remarriage-and-%e2%80%9cbarder%e2%80%9d-events/#comment-52 [...] who are now aged between 13 and 20. She subsequently applied for an increase for herself and capitalisation of her maintenance claims. Last week the judgment was handed [...] [...] who are now aged between 13 and 20. She subsequently applied for an increase for herself and capitalisation of her maintenance claims. Last week the judgment was handed [...]

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