Comments on: Cohabitation and the “common law marriage” myth http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/ Where Family Law Meets Family Life Thu, 17 May 2012 17:28:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: 22,000 ‘thank-yous’! | Marilyn Stowe Family Law and Divorce Blog http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-36 22,000 ‘thank-yous’! | Marilyn Stowe Family Law and Divorce Blog Tue, 25 Jan 2011 14:43:28 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-36 [...] 1.      Cohabitation and the Common Law Marriage Myth [...] [...] 1.      Cohabitation and the Common Law Marriage Myth [...]

]]> By: Sharmain http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-35 Sharmain Thu, 28 Oct 2010 18:04:12 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-35 Yes, Sara, you are right in much of what you say. I am a woman co-habiting with a man for the past 15 years. We have a ten year old child together, whom I gave up work to raise. My partner has never wanted to get married, which was ok with me, as i imagined we would always be together. But throughout most of our relationship he has had a roaving eye, and has met women behind my back. No wonder he didn't want to get married! Our relationship has worsened the last couple of years because he wants us to have an open relationship.... I have no money, and as a "shop girl" (as I was) I wouldn't be able to earn enough money to keep my head above water if I left him. Yes, Sara, you are right in much of what you say.
I am a woman co-habiting with a man for the past 15 years. We have a ten year old child together, whom I gave up work to raise. My partner has never wanted to get married, which was ok with me, as i imagined we would always be together. But throughout most of our relationship he has had a roaving eye, and has met women behind my back. No wonder he didn’t want to get married! Our relationship has worsened the last couple of years because he wants us to have an open relationship…. I have no money, and as a “shop girl” (as I was) I wouldn’t be able to earn enough money to keep my head above water if I left him.

]]> By: Anne http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-34 Anne Tue, 17 Aug 2010 15:59:22 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-34 RameshRaju- How dare you presume to stereotype everyone and put all who cohabit into one box?! Thank god that other people feel proud to express individualism and live life as they choose to do so. I think you are sheltered, ignorant, narrow minded and need to look outside of your tunnel vision. You make marriage sound like prison, no wonder people choose to cohabit instead! I cohabit with my partner of 8 years, we have never been unfaithful and intend to marry and have children....BUT.....we shall only do this when its right for us and NOT because its expected of us by other people with outdated views and off the wall opinions! Go judge your own life and keep your opinions of others that isnt living life by your standards to yourself! RameshRaju- How dare you presume to stereotype everyone and put all who cohabit into one box?!

Thank god that other people feel proud to express individualism and live life as they choose to do so.

I think you are sheltered, ignorant, narrow minded and need to look outside of your tunnel vision.

You make marriage sound like prison, no wonder people choose to cohabit instead!

I cohabit with my partner of 8 years, we have never been unfaithful and intend to marry and have children….BUT…..we shall only do this when its right for us and NOT because its expected of us by other people with outdated views and off the wall opinions!

Go judge your own life and keep your opinions of others that isnt living life by your standards to yourself!

]]> By: Fred http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-33 Fred Sun, 08 Aug 2010 10:40:38 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-33 RameshRaju - I cohabit. You are entirely wrong on SO MANY levels. I wonder how you manage to get so many things wrong in a single paragraph! I am degree-qualified, do not have any religious hang-ups (like you appear to have) and am totally and utterly devoted, faithful and honest with my fiancé. You need to stop listening to other people's ideology (i.e. your belief system)and start to form your own OBJECTIVE opinions based on experience! RameshRaju – I cohabit. You are entirely wrong on SO MANY levels. I wonder how you manage to get so many things wrong in a single paragraph!

I am degree-qualified, do not have any religious hang-ups (like you appear to have) and am totally and utterly devoted, faithful and honest with my fiancé.

You need to stop listening to other people’s ideology (i.e. your belief system)and start to form your own OBJECTIVE opinions based on experience!

]]> By: Cohabitation: England v Scotland – by guest blogger Jenny Wilmot http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-32 Cohabitation: England v Scotland – by guest blogger Jenny Wilmot Tue, 27 Jan 2009 14:23:28 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-32 [...] gave a glimmer of hope to unmarried couples. If the proposals were taken up, cohabitants would not be left destitute or reliant on the archaic [...] [...] gave a glimmer of hope to unmarried couples. If the proposals were taken up, cohabitants would not be left destitute or reliant on the archaic [...]

]]> By: Sara http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-31 Sara Tue, 16 Dec 2008 14:37:53 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-31 I think this is a dilemma for womenkind. Ultimately it is the women who falls in love with man who does not want to commit to marriage. Men like this are presently protected from being reasonably responsible for the women they have enjoyed spending their time with, most of these women lack the independence, emotionally, economically or socially to walk away or hold back until a real gentleman who truthfully wants to commit to them comes along. I fully support any attempt by the government to encourage couples to marry legally and they need to educate the masses, meanwhile the children and/or old ladies who are the loosers in the vaccum created by co-habiting must be protected and not victimized further. Also, I read that religious marriage ceremonies are not necessarily accepted as proof of being legally married. I came across a woman who was subjected to a marriage scam. Again, we need to protect women from this kind of circumstance by acknowledging religious marriage ceremonies as legal when couples participating and were resonably aware of what they were doing. I think this is a dilemma for womenkind. Ultimately it is the women who falls in love with man who does not want to commit to marriage. Men like this are presently protected from being reasonably responsible for the women they have enjoyed spending their time with, most of these women lack the independence, emotionally, economically or socially to walk away or hold back until a real gentleman who truthfully wants to commit to them comes along. I fully support any attempt by the government to encourage couples to marry legally and they need to educate the masses, meanwhile the children and/or old ladies who are the loosers in the vaccum created by co-habiting must be protected and not victimized further. Also, I read that religious marriage ceremonies are not necessarily accepted as proof of being legally married. I came across a woman who was subjected to a marriage scam. Again, we need to protect women from this kind of circumstance by acknowledging religious marriage ceremonies as legal when couples participating and were resonably aware of what they were doing.

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-30 Rebecca Sun, 09 Nov 2008 13:11:52 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-30 What people seem to be forgetting in their drive to put cohabitation on the same legal footing as marriage, is that many people do not marry for a reason! They don't want to have legal and financial responsibilities to their partner. If people want this kind of arrangement then marriage is there, if not then they opt out of that and remain cohabiting. If the government closes this gap, then where is the freedom of choice? What people seem to be forgetting in their drive to put cohabitation on the same legal footing as marriage, is that many people do not marry for a reason! They don’t want to have legal and financial responsibilities to their partner.

If people want this kind of arrangement then marriage is there, if not then they opt out of that and remain cohabiting.

If the government closes this gap, then where is the freedom of choice?

]]> By: Ramesh Raju http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-29 Ramesh Raju Sat, 21 Jun 2008 05:50:23 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-29 Co-habitation is a form of high-tech ADULTERY. Co-habitation is highly fragile relationship between man and a woman. Co-habitation lacks commitment. Blood relationship is very weak in co-habitation. Co-habitation cannot build healthy society or healthy family system. It ruins the actual family system. Co-habitation is just like room mates living in a room. Children are the ultimate sufferers in co-habitation. Co-habitaion is the tradition designed by the devil of individualism. Sexual relationships are weaker in co-habitation. Co-habitation should be considered as a crime or illegal one by the court of law. Divorce cases are mostly found in Co-habitation. Cohabitation is the result of birth of individualism in men and women. Co-habitation leads to many disasters in human society. Cohabitation is an unsecured one, even more than marriage system. Marriage system is always secured more than co-habitation. It is pity that Bharatmata is being gang-raped by some IT professionals in the name of co-habitation, pub culture, immodest fashion, dating etc. Co-habitation is a form of high-tech ADULTERY. Co-habitation is highly fragile relationship between man and a woman. Co-habitation lacks commitment. Blood relationship is very weak in co-habitation. Co-habitation cannot build healthy society or healthy family system. It ruins the actual family system. Co-habitation is just like room mates living in a room. Children are the ultimate sufferers in co-habitation. Co-habitaion is the tradition designed by the devil of individualism. Sexual relationships are weaker in co-habitation. Co-habitation should be considered as a crime or illegal one by the court of law. Divorce cases are mostly found in Co-habitation. Cohabitation is the result of birth of individualism in men and women. Co-habitation leads to many disasters in human society. Cohabitation is an unsecured one, even more than marriage system. Marriage system is always secured more than co-habitation. It is pity that Bharatmata is being gang-raped by some IT professionals in the name of co-habitation, pub culture, immodest fashion, dating etc.

]]> By: rameshraju http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-28 rameshraju Wed, 18 Jun 2008 07:20:59 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-28 Co-habitation is a form of prostitution. Co-habitation is highly fragile relationship between man and a woman. Co-habitation lacks commitment. Blood relationship is very weak in co-habitation. Co-habitation cannot build healthy society or healthy family system. Co-habitation is just like room mates living in a room. Children are the sufferers in co-habitation. Co-habitaion is the tradition designed by the devil. Sexual relationships are weaker in co-habitation. Co-habitation should be considered as a crime or illegal one by the court of law. Divorce cases are mostly found in Co-habitation. Cohabitation is the result of birth of individualism in men and women. Co-habitation leads to many disasters in human society. Cohabitation is an unsecured one, even more than marriage system. Marriage system is always secured more than co-habitation. Co-habitation is a form of prostitution. Co-habitation is highly fragile relationship between man and a woman. Co-habitation lacks commitment. Blood relationship is very weak in co-habitation. Co-habitation cannot build healthy society or healthy family system. Co-habitation is just like room mates living in a room. Children are the sufferers in co-habitation. Co-habitaion is the tradition designed by the devil. Sexual relationships are weaker in co-habitation. Co-habitation should be considered as a crime or illegal one by the court of law. Divorce cases are mostly found in Co-habitation. Cohabitation is the result of birth of individualism in men and women. Co-habitation leads to many disasters in human society. Cohabitation is an unsecured one, even more than marriage system. Marriage system is always secured more than co-habitation.

]]> By: sally http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-27 sally Fri, 01 Feb 2008 10:00:16 +0000 http://www.marilynstowe.co.uk/2008/01/23/cohabitation-and-the-%e2%80%9ccommon-law-marriage%e2%80%9d-myth/#comment-27 People do not realise that the marriage certificate is so much more than a piece of paper. It is documented proof that- at some point- the couple declared their intention to commit to one another in front of witnesses. If a cohabiting relationship breaks down, if it suits them one of the cohabitees can claim that they were just very good friends living under one roof. OK if they have children together this argument may seem a little strained. But if they have no children then they could very well have been just good friends. There is no legal definition of what cohabitation means. Having that marriage certificiate is very, very important. Frankly, those that believe it is "just a piece of paper" are fools I learnt this through bitter experience- for 10 years ago I was one of those fools. I will never make that mistake again. People do not realise that the marriage certificate is so much more than a piece of paper. It is documented proof that- at some point- the couple declared their intention to commit to one another in front of witnesses. If a cohabiting relationship breaks down, if it suits them one of the cohabitees can claim that they were just very good friends living under one roof. OK if they have children together this argument may seem a little strained. But if they have no children then they could very well have been just good friends. There is no legal definition of what cohabitation means. Having that marriage certificiate is very, very important. Frankly, those that believe it is “just a piece of paper” are fools I learnt this through bitter experience- for 10 years ago I was one of those fools. I will never make that mistake again.

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